 
Most people grew up with the familiar saying, “It is better to give than to receive”; however, very few people understand how this adage is blocking abundance from their lives.
Is it really better to give than it is to receive? The answer for me is NO! I say this for two reasons.
First of al, if you have this belief, you are probably blocking abundance from flowing into you life, and this is occurring because you have a hard time receiving. Think about it. How many times have you turned down compliments for something you did? Did you say something like “oh, it was nothing”? Or if a friend wants to compensate you for something you did for them, how often do you say “No, I couldn’t possibly accept you money or gift.” Have many times have seen a penny on the ground and refused to pick it up?
If any of these examples sound familiar, you may be blocking your abundance. If you refuse to receive what another person or the Universe is offering you, you are dishonoring that person because you are blocking his or her ability to give. If you consistently refuse to pick up pennies off the ground the Universe offers, you are training the Universe not to give it to you because a penny is money and it no different than a million dollars to the Universe.
Second of all, in order for you or someone to give, there must be a receiver to accept what is given because giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin and both are required. You can not have one without the other, and one is not better than the other.
Therefore, if you intend to live a prosperous life, you must be an excellent giver and an excellent receiver, and this is one of the primary differences between prosperous people and poor people.
Prosperous people are excellent receivers.
Poor people are poor receivers.
This is not a criticism of poor people because poor people (people who have a low level of prosperity) are not less intelligent, less capable, or even less motivated than prosperous people. They just are not open to the possibilities around them, and they are blocking the abundance from their lives. Without taking advantage of opportunities, it’s nearly impossible to grow and experience greater levels of prosperity in life.
So why, then, are most people poor receivers?
It occurs because they have accepted this meme that “it is better to give than receive”. A meme is like a mind virus that spreads easily from person to person and affects the level of prosperity and abundance that you experience. But if you trace this meme back to its original translation, you may be amazed what it really said. The real adage before it was changed to the current day translation was:
It is better to be in a position to give than in a position to have to receive.
The original adage changes the whole meaning of the meme, “it is better to give than receive”. Therefore, if you were inflected with this meme (limiting belief), you have been conditioned not to receive; however, you can reprogram you subconscious mind to willingly receive everything that comes into your life. By everything, I mean all the events and circumstances in our lives, even though that you designate as “bad”.
To reprogram yourself, do the following:
Using your closed hand, rub over your heart center in the middle of your chest in a clockwise motion, and repeat the following declaration:
I am choosing to an excellent giver and an excellent receiver.
Repeat this reprogramming technique through out the day until you subconscious mind has accepted this truth.
By reprogramming yourself to receive, you open yourself to the blessings of God (Universe) and allow abundance to flow into your life.
At the same time, continue to give unconditionally and with love because what you gives return back to you multiplied. Don’t just give money, but give of your time, energy, resources, knowledge, skills, and/or talents. I believe the more you give, the more you receive, and this is based on the universal Law of Giving and Receiving.
The Law of Giving and Receiving is one the greatest laws that you can implement to manifest prosperity when you consciously use it. If you wish to receive anything in your life, you first need to give it unconditionally from the heart. At the same time, you must be open to receiving it. Many times it will come from a different source than what you gave and it may come in a different form than you expect, but it will be returned. This law is based on spiritual and scientific teachings and principles.
From the spiritual teaching, the Law of Giving and Receiving is demonstrated as follows:
Whatever you sow (meaning whatever you plant, disseminate, disperse, or put out), you will also reap (meaning you will also receive, gain, harvest, accumulate, or get back). - Galatians 6:7
From the scientific teaching, the Law of Giving and Receiving is demonstrated as follows:
For every action (meaning for everything you do, every act, effort, or transaction), there will always be an equal or even opposite reaction (meaning there will be cause and effect or consequences and/or repercussions). -Isaac Newton’s Law of Motion.
So Give. Give. Give. And do so cheerfully and unconditionally. It is the energy behind the giving that matters so do not give grudgingly. The Law of Giving and Receiving guarantees that you shall receive plenty for what you give if you are open to receiving it.
Now there are some people who resist giving freely. Often some people decide not to give because they believe they do not have enough to give. They feel that if they give, they will have nothing left. This type of belief comes from a poverty consciousness.
From a spiritual perspective, if you do not sow, you will not reap. How can you receive what you desire, if you never give anything, and how can you receive anything if you are not open to receiving it?
From the scientific perspective, if you do nothing, nothing will happen. You must take action for something to occur because we live in a cause and effect world.
If you decide not to give for fear that there is not enough or fear of loss, you will never really experience the free flowing abundance in your life, whether it is money, joy, peace of mind, love, anything else you truly desire.
So, let today be the day that you change your level of prosperity by transforming your thoughts and renewing your mind. Open you heart to give freely and transform the mind to receive abundantly. When you do, you will experience a liberating awareness of abundance flowing in your life. You realize that you can give freely without fear of ever over extending yourself or experiencing lack and scarcity because you will experience joy, love, inner peace, and an increased level of prosperity.
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
Ever since I have been studying prosperity and success, I have found that one of the greatest blocks that many people have about financial prosperity is the core belief that having an abundance money or material wealth is not spiritual.
This belief is very pervasive in the world, and it is having a detrimental effect on the quality of most people lives. Many people have been conditioned by organized religion which propagated this belief through the centuries.
If you have been raised in the Christian faith or Churchianity as I called it, you may have hear or read the verse in the bible which states:
“It be easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter the Kingdom of God” (Matthew 19:24).
Because of the misinterpretation of this verse, many people are using this verse in the bible as their excuse for choosing not to be rich or wealthy (financial prosperous). But, as with all truths, clarification can clear up the confusion.
This verse like many of the verses in the bible was not meant to be translated literally, but metaphorically. When this verse is taken literally, it is quite obvious that a camel can not could not pass through the eye of needle, but Christ had an entirely different meaning. Christ was not telling us that rich people can’t enter the Kingdom of God or material riches are evil and rich people are bad. However, many people who reads or hears this verse make the classic mistake of relating riches in this verse to having MONEY and MATERIAL WEALTH, but this is an incorrect translation.
So what did Christ mean?
When Christ used the words “rich man”, he was referring to you and me because we are all rich. You may not agree with the idea that you are rich, but the truth is - if you have attachments to you material possessions or you get your identity (who you believe your are) from your material possession and material wealth, you are rich in Ego, and this is what Christ was alluding to in that verse.
Your Ego is the veil that keeps you separate from your True Self, and if you desire to enter the inner Kingdom and experience peace, joy, and love, you must not be attached to your possession to the point that you are possessed by your possessions. Although most people tend to associate attachment in terms of physical objects such as money, cars, or houses, it can also apply to mind-states. These mind-states include attachments such as your self concept, your limiting beliefs, your victim story, your negative attitude, your poverty consciousness, and your negative emotions.
As long as you remain attached to any limiting idea created by your Ego, you are a rich man or woman who will find it difficult to enter the Kingdom. Remember, Christ did not say it was impossible to enter the Kingdom, just it is more difficult and hard. So the moral of this story is that, it is ok to have material wealth, but it is detrimental to you spiritual growth if you become attached to it or if you get you identity from it.
Note, when Christ speaks of Heaven or Kingdom of God, he is referring to the recognition of oneness. Of course if people are constantly chasing material things, like money, fame, etc, they can never feel that oneness because the Ego always want more and always create the feeling of duality - Me, My, Them, I have, or I Don’t have, etc.
If you are currently clinging to your riches or finding your identification with it, let go of it. I know this is can be very difficult for some people because you believe what you “own” is who you are; therefore, you may not be willing to give it up. If you let it go, who would you Be?
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
“The greatest power that a person possesses is the power to choose.” ~ J. Martin Kohe
The Choice…
When you awaken first thing in the morning, you can immediately decide, it’s going to be a great day, or you can decide that it’s not.
As you drive to work and the car next to you suddenly cuts you off, you can choose to respond with understanding, or you can choose to respond with anger.
When you arrive at work and your manager says he/she is assigning you to a new department, you can choose to be excited about the opportunity or fearful of the change.
After your morning meeting, you can choose to call your spouse, and say “I love you”, or you can decide it’s not important.
Later in the day, when you are asked to lunch by the new guy from another department, you can choose to make a new friend and go or be small and kindly decline.
Before you leave for the day, you receive an email from the HR department about giving to an annual charity campaign. You can choose to give freely or hold on tightly.
When you get home and your child asks you to throw the football with him, you can choose to join in the fun or refuse.
At dinner, when the dog jumps on your lap again, you can choose to exercise patience and calmly let the dog outside, or you can yell at you son to show your frustration and anger for not putting the dog in the backyard.
After dinner, your daughter brings in her math test where she earned a “B”. You can choose to praise her effort or tear her down by asking why she didn’t get an “A”.
When you go to relax in the evening, you can choose to watch the news and get bombarded with negativity, or you can make the choice not to watch it.
At bedtime, as you turn off the light, you can choose to tell God five to ten things you are grateful for experiencing today, or you can keep quiet.
So, what kind of day would it be if you chose the former in all cases?
What type of day would it be if you decide on the latter in all situations?
In these situations, there is no “right” or “wrong” way to choose, but there are consequences for you choices.
One of the hidden secrets of life is to know that the results (level of prosperity) in your life are a product of the choices you make each moment throughout your day. Each day you make hundreds if not thousands of choices. You can make a conscious choice for happiness, love, kindness, peace, generosity or financial abundance to name a few. Or you just as easily can opt for smallness, fear, anger, mediocrity, resentment, bitterness, jealousy, or hatred.
So, how have you been choosing? Are you choices allowing you to living a prosperous life where you have peace and joy? If not, you can begin choosing differently starting NOW.
The choice is your…
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
Recently I had my annual physical, and my doctor stated that I had gained twelve pounds since my last physical. I wasn’t really aware of my weight gain because my clothes still fit and I felt good physically. However, immediately after my doctor said I gained some weight, the word diet surfaced in my consciousness. Since I don’t normally regulate my body weight by dieting, I was surprised that I became aware of this word.
It is amazing that when most people think about losing weight, they immediately think of dieting. Believe or not, a lot of people are on diets these days. There are tons of diet regimens, including the Atkins, South Beach, Change One, Rosedale, Weight Watchers, Zone, Thyroid, Mediterranean, and Okinawa diets just to name a few. There are even diets, such as the Martha Vineyard Diet, that are designed to detox your body. Despite the fact that some people doubt the efficaciousness of this diet, it does remove toxins that are stored in your body.
Although most diets are designed to reduce your body weight and improve your health, I would like to tell you about a diet that is designed for improving your thoughts; thus improving your ability for manifesting prosperity and success.
Your thoughts are the initiator of all your actions and the reality you are experiencing now, but most people are unaware of impact of their thoughts. Psychologists estimate that the average person has 60,000 thoughts racing through his or her mind each day, and many of these thoughts are negative in nature. If you take notice of your thoughts and let go of some of the negative ones, can you see the cascading positive effects it would create in your life?
Most people are bombarded by information that promotes negativity, limitation, and lack consciousness on a daily basis. Negativity spews from your TV, radio, the Internet, friends, family, and the people you work with. In fact, most people are so saturated with lack programming that all they do is complain, blame, and criticize which cause them to struggle.
Let me ask you a question — when you watch or hear the news, do you feel joy and inner peace or do you feel depress and anxious? When you are with your family members, friends, and others people you meet throughout the day, do you hear complaining and other forms of negativity most of the time?
I’m sure most people are not even aware of the negative energy they are putting out all day. If you just listen to their conversations, you will most likely hear nothing but complaining. They will be complaining about their work load, about their job, about their spouse, about their children, about their day, about how short the weekend was. They complain, complain, complain on just about anything and everything.
Although negativity can impact your prosperity and success, there is a diet that you can use to counter the effects of negativity. This diet can allow you to become aware of your thoughts. I called this the 21 Day Mental Diet, and it is based on the 7 Day Mental Diet by Emmet Fox; however, I increased the number of days from seven to twenty-one because most psychologists state that it takes 21 days to change a habit.
The 21 Day Mental Diet
The 21 Day Mental Diet is designed to help you become aware of your thoughts and offers you a way to be more conscious of your thinking throughout the day. Although this diet takes twenty-one days to complete, it may have far-reaching benefits that could transform you mind and your life. However, the success of this transformation is dependent upon you completing the diet, but this will not be easy because this may be the most challenging diet you’ve ever attempted.
Just as you consciously pay closer attention to what you’re eating when you are on a diet to lose weight, you need to start paying closer attention to thoughts that surface in you conscious mind throughout the day. If you have never consciously listened to your thoughts throughout the day, your findings will be eye opening.
Goal
The goal of the diet is very simple. For twenty consecutive days, don’t allow yourself to speak a single negative thought. It is your job to stop all the negative thoughts that come into your conscious awareness, refrain them, but do not speak them. If you speak a negative thought, you have to restart the diet. For example, if you are on day 10, and you complain how the price of gas is too high, go back to day one.
The first time I did this diet, it took me about four months before I could complete all 21 days without speaking negatively. The average person who really gives this their best effort usually takes 4-10 months to go 21 consecutive days without speaking negatively. This is not easy, but you will find that your entire life is happier, more loving and more enjoyable!
So if you are willing to do this diet and transform your mind and your life, let’s examine what is a negative thought.
What is a negative thought?
- Any thought of fear, failure, confusion, anger, disappointment, criticism, sadness, or worrying.
- Any thought of disparagement, blame, spite, gossip, jealousy, or disapproval of others.
- Any thought of sickness or being in an accident.
- Any thought that is not positive and constructive in nature, whether it concerns you or someone else.
- In short, any kind of complaining.
Note, Eckhart Tolle, the author of A New Earth stated “Complaining is not to be confused with informing someone of a mistake or deficiency so that it can be put right. And to refrain from complaining doesn’t necessarily mean putting up with bad quality or behavior. There is no ego in telling the waiter your soup is cold and needs to be heated up-if you stick to the facts, which are always neutral. ‘How dare you serve me cold soup…?’ That’s complaining.”
When you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, reframe it. To do this, say CANCEL! and state a positive affirmation.
For example, if you are have a negative thought such as “gas prices are too high.” Say CANCEL! You can it out loud or silently in your head.
Next reframe your negative thought by stating “I choose be financial abundant and allow money to flow to me easily and consistently.”
If you know EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), you can increase the effectiveness of this affirmation.
Well, are you ready to begin to change your mind and your life? If you are ready, make a decision to start the 21 Day Mental Diet today. After you have made your decision to follow this diet plan, do not tell anyone. In fact, keep it a secret. Sometimes when you attempt to step out of your box, even well meaning friends and family can negatively influence your thinking. If people notice a change in you attitude, continue to keep the diet to yourself until you successfully complete it.
Remember, your thoughts are the foundation from which all your dreams are manifested, so in simple terms, you need to tune OUT of the world negativity, and tune IN to your own prosperity and success.
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
What is it that you want in your life? Is it a loving relationship with your spouse, a family member or a friend? Is it a new career doing what you love, or is having the money to travel around the world? Is it improved health and having a sexy body? Take a few minutes and think about all the things you want in your life.
If you did simple task, do you notice a common theme in the things you want?
No matter what you want, there is a common theme is and that is you don’t have it.
Do you ever wonder why? It happens because wanting is the opposite of having. Can you stand up and sit down at the same time. No; it is impossible. You can do one or the other, but you can’t do both at the same time, and this same principle applies to wanting and having.
Now, I am not suggesting that you do let go of your wanting so you end up with nothing. Instead, I am merely pointing out that if you let go of wanting, then you would have it. I know this sounds like a real dilemma for the mind, but when you in a state of wanting, you mind tends to focus on what you don’t have. When this occurs, you get feelings of lack and unhappiness, and these feelings are broadcasted into the Universe. Thus you repel what you want, and you remain trapped in a state of wanting.
The old adage of “the rich get richer and the poor get poorer” can easily be explained with this principle. When a rich person hold in his mind the belief that “I have money”, this person is not focusing on wanting (or lacking) money, and this abundant energy is broadcasted to the Universe. Thus this person attracts more opportunities and circumstances to manifest more money. On the other hand, a poor person on is forever wanting it and broadcasting lack energy to the Universe. Thus this person attracts opportunities and circumstances to repel money.
If you are going to change from a state of wanting to a state of having, you need to re-program the mind to focus on what is good in life. It is normal for the mind to focus on the lack of it in your life, but many people never move beyond that point of creation.
To create a the shift in your mind from wanting to having, do the following.
For everything that you want to create in your life, find something similar that you can be grateful for in your life NOW. For example, if you want a more blissful relationship with your primary partner, find things about him/her that you are grateful for and focus on those things. Feel gratitude for the relationships you have that are working. It is the feeling of gratitude that draws what you want to you. It is not necessary to focus specifically on what it is that you want…mainly because when we do that it is so difficult to focus on the feelings of having what you want while living in the present experience of what you do not want. Instead shift your focus away from what isn’t working and focus on the things that are.
The more you vibrate the energy of gratitude out into the Universe, the more things you will begin to notice to be grateful for. When those things happen, allow yourself to just feel gratitude for them. Be aware that the mind is suspicious sometimes and wants to doubt what is happening, looks for strings, or is worried about when it will stop, so notice the mind when it does this and just release those toxic thoughts. Just relax and enjoy the moment. Feel gratitude for what IS happening and you will attract more of that.
Furthermore, start a gratitude journal today. At the end of every day before retiring to bed, write 5-10 things that you grateful for about your day. Allow yourself to really focus on them and FEEL the energy of gratitude in your body.
When you find yourself having a moment in the day when nothing is happening, allow yourself to take a deep breath and just appreciate the silence of the present moment.
Be grateful your health, home, your car, the things that are working in your life, the food in your refrigerator, the lessons you are experiencing that will cause you to grow, or anything that comes to mind.
Give thanks…feel it…and journal about what you experience.
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
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