Reginald Cuffee

Many people read self-growth books, listen to personal develop audio courses, and attend wealth training seminars hoping to find the magic formula that will allow them to transform their lives to have wealth and happiness.  They believe that if they do what the books, audio courses, or seminars suggest, they will have what they want and that having it automatically makes them into that successful person they always wanted to be.

Unfortunately, most people won’t do what they learned in the self-growth books, the audio courses, and the wealth seminars because it isn’t a natural thing for them to do. The doing of it, just doesn’t fit with the image of who they are.

For example, I had a client who attended a $9,000 real estate seminar.  The seminar  taught creative and proven marketing and prospecting strategies that would skyrocket her income; however, months later she was not achieving the level of success she desired.  In fact, her sales were decreasing. 

While working with her, I discovered that she had a fear of rejection, and this is fear was impacting what she was willing to do to be a successful real estate agent. 

Even though the real estate seminar told her exactly what to do and how to do it, the new procedures were out of character for her because it wasn’t something she felt comfortable doing.   Soon after the seminar ended, she was highly motivated to use some of them to improve her real estate sales, but the new procedures soon fell by the wayside for lack of follow through.   And this occurred because of who she was being - a person who feared rejection.

In my assessment, the seminar instructors failed miserably in their job, because they never told her she would have transform who she was being if she was going to be successful using their strategies.

Although she wanted to Be a successful real estate agent, she was following the wrong manifestation process of DO/ HAVE/ BE.  This is the same manifestation process that most people have been taught, but it is the wrong order to manifest what you desire.  Not only is in the wrong order, but the Universe does not honor it because DO is not the first step in the manifesting process.

By telling us what to do, self-growth books, personal development audio courses, and wealth training seminars suggest that the manifesting order for any change in circumstances is DO / HAVE / BE.  However, it just doesn’t work that way because they have the order backward.  If you are not already Being that person, you will never be able to do what the authors/ instructors  suggest until you change yourself into the person who will do those things as a result of who you are-not in spite of.

The Game of Life is set up so that we must grow in consciousness before you can have that better life you want.  Having more requires a transformation, which is the first, not the last step, in the order of manifesting.

We must BE before we can DO, and DO before we can HAVE.  The correct order of manifesting for us is BE / DO / HAVE.  The real question in life is whether you will choose to Be or not to Be the one who has what you want from life.

Namaste,

RC

written by Reginald Cuffee

Are you a person who expresses gratitude for the prosperity that you are experiencing in your life?  Do you know when you express gratitude, you are opening a conduit to manifest great things into your life such as the right people, the right circumstances, better health, increased financial abundance, more joy, etc.?

Now, let me as you another question– do you keep a gratitude journal?  If you not currently using one, you are missing out on one of the best tools available to you to help you make your life more enjoyable right now.  I believe in the power of the Gratitude Journal so much that I not only use it  on a regular basis, but I recommend to all my clients, friends, and family member to start and continue using one because it has the power to deepen the “good” results you are experiencing in your life.

 

What Is A Gratitude Journal?

A gratitude journal is a paper notebook, electronic text editor (journal), or blog that you use to write about the things you are grateful for each day.  It is a way to help you consciously focus on the things you have attracted in your life that make you feel joy.  By expressing gratitude, you become aware of these things, thus you create a shift in your thinking and your attitude.  Furthermore, a gratitude journal is a place where you can celebrate your wins in your life such as getting a job promotion, starting a new romantic relationship, losing five pounds, or any small or large goal that you have achieved.

Brian Tracy says “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step towards achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”

Until you are grateful for what you have right now in your life, you can not expect new things to flow to you.  So, if you currently do not have a Gratitude Journal, start one today.  The following tips can help you start a Gratitude Journal and a whole new outlook on life.

Tips for Starting and Keeping Your Journal

 1.  Choose a blank notebook or journal to use as your Gratitude Journal. Consider using a spiral-bound notebook that opens flat for ease in writing. If you like to use technology, you can use an electronic journal or you can use a free blog from www.blogger.com.

 2.  Every night, create a few quiet minutes before going to bed, review your day, and write a list of at least five things that you are grateful for today. These things can be small or great such as hearing your baby’s laughter, seeing a flower in bloom, hearing a bird chirping near your window, or receiving unexpected money.

 3.  Make the list personal, and write a few words about why you are grateful for these things. When you initially start, you can be brief, but increase the length of what you write as time progresses. As you do, allow yourself to be free in form and structure. Some days, you might be feeling particularly abundant, and those five things will just fly onto the page. Other days, you may feel like you can’t think of even one thing that you are grateful for that day. It this happens, just remember how amazing it is that you even have a roof over your head, food to eat, or the fact that you have hot water for a bath.

 4. You can write your Gratitude Journal in list-form, free-form, prayer-form, or begin each sentence the same way. Use whatever writing style feels comfortable with you that day. Express yourself freely, and do not censor your thoughts and feelings as you write. Just let the information flow from within.

 5.  Everyday, begin looking for the positive perspective in all things. View obstacles in your life as opportunities to appreciate and grow. Focus on the wonderful things in your life, so you can experience similar encounters in the course of your life. Use positive energy as a magnet to draw even more positive energy, and note the things that show up in your Gratitude Journal.

 6.  Personalize your Gratitude Journal. Expand it by including photos, clippings, quotes or verses from magazines or other sources.

 7.  Keep your Gratitude Journal in the same location, so it is easily accessible. The easier you make it for yourself to keep this routine, the more likely will you commit to doing it. I normally keep my Gratitude Journal on my desk in my office or on my night stand in my bedroom, so I can have easy access to it.

8.  Keep your Gratitude Journal private. This is very important because this will give you an incentive to be more open and honest with your thoughts and feelings. This journal is for you and Source (God, Universe, etc).

What happens when you write in a gratitude journal every night?

As you continue expressing gratitude in your Gratitude Journal, you will notice more things in your life, and you will create greater feelings of appreciation.  My experience is that when I write out what I am grateful every night, I become more in tune throughout the next day.  It is like turning on an inner-switch that sets my awareness to look for experiences to be grateful for each day.   So you might be jogging in your neighborhood in the morning, and catch the flash of a bluebird in the sunlight, and instead of going pass it, you stop and notice it for a moment. You take it in, and you make a mental note to include that in your gratitude journal.  Later when you’re having lunch with a business partner, he grabs the check and pays it.  Not only do you thank him, but you make that mental note again.  Your day becomes amazing because you are living in the moment enjoying each thing that is occurring.

In essence, you have become a gratitude magnet, and oddly enough, amazing things start to find you.  But you have to learn to be grateful now for all that your are experiencing.

To help you get started, here are just a few of the things I wrote in my Gratitude Journal from yesterday.

I am grateful for:

…spending time with my wife walking on the beach and enjoying the beautiful

oceanfront view and the sound of the waves as they rolled in on the shore.

…editing 30 pages in my book that I am writing.  It was really fun and amazing easily to accomplish.

…that I chose to exercise even though I was tired from jetlag from my trip to San Diego / La Jolla.

…seeing the turtles and ducks swimming on the lake in our backyard.

…that I was able to enjoy a quiet lunch with my wife where we feasted on an abundance of fresh fruits and vegetable from her garden. 

…that more people are visiting and enjoying my blog post.

 

Another thing you can do in your Gratitude Journal is list the things and experiences that you are grateful for attracting in your life now.  These are things and experiences that are not YET in your reality, but are on the way to you now.

Here are a few things from my list:

 

I am grateful for:

…selling 25,000 copies of my new book in the first 90 days of it being released.

…500,000 people visiting my blog each month

…for my wife helping 25 families buy a new house or sell their existing house. 

 

So, what are you waiting for now.  Get started with your Gratitude Journal today. The key to having a Gratitude Journal is doing it!  At the end of each moth, it is fun to go back and look at what you wrote to remind yourself of all the positive things you experiences throughout the last month, especially all the great things you consciously attracted in your life.  This is such an amazing feeling knowing you consciously manifested things and experiences that were not there the previous month.

Really do this one.  In fact, do it for 30 days, and see how the practice changes you.  See if you don’t experience joy and experience more miracles in your life.

Namaste,

RC

written by Reginald Cuffee

Today is Independence Day here in the USA, and for many people, it is a day of celebration of our country’s freedom from England.  On this day in 1776, America declared its independence and began an incredible experiment in controlling its own destiny. 

Although it’s a great day to spend time with your family, attend a picnic, watch a parade, go to the beach, or watch fireworks, today is the perfect day to declare your freedom.

But freedom from what exactly?

• Freedom from the Rat Race where you work in a job doing what you do not enjoy.
• Freedom from financial constraints where you never have to
  worry about paying your bills ever again because you have the money to pay for the experiences you desire in life.
• Freedom from a life filled with drudgery of just making a living.
• Freedom to do what you want, when you want to do it because you are not controlled by the 9 to 5 schedule.

Whether you are an America or not, it’s time to celebrate your financial freedom, or if you haven’t achieved it yet, it is time to declare it and go for it at full speed!

Remember, America declared it’s independence on July 4th, 1776; however, the world didn’t recognize America as a free nation until 1783.  So, declare it for yourself now.   

Once, you make this declaration, take action to BE that person.  Release any negative beliefs that repels money from flowing to you, adopt a prosperous mindset, and take inspired action as ideas for flowing money comes to you.  If you follow these steps of Be-Do-Have, before long, you will be well on your way to having financial freedom.

Have an exciting and inspiring day.

Namaste,

RC

written by Reginald Cuffee

I believe it fair to say that most people desire to have prosperity and success.  If this is true, why do so few people achieve it and continue to live well below their true potential? It occurs because they refuse to do what is required to change the results they are manifesting in their lives. 

If you want to go from living a mediocre existence to living a thriving and prosperous life, there are many things you have to do.  Big things like releasing the limiting beliefs and negative programming in your subconscious mind.  Little things like making a decision to change, setting side time for self-development, doing affirmations, visualizing, and following through with inspired action. 

However, let me tell you what I believe is the single most important thing you must do to change - 

Release your attachment to your victim story!

 

If you are not currently living a prosperous life, you probably have a victim (”poor me“) story that keeps you trapped in your reality.  A victim story is any excuse you might use to explain why you don’t already have everything you desire from life whether it is to be financial free, enjoying good health, experiencing a blissful relationship with your primary partner, experiencing joy and peace in your life, or a strong connection with the Source (God).

Our victim stories usually are based on circumstances and events we experience in the past, and we continue to use them to limit what we experience in our life now.  For example:

Do you ever reminisce about any painful childhood experiences that you endured such as love or affection being withheld from you, being called negative names, being physically abused, or being abandoned, etc.  If you are talking about these experiences with anyone other than a professional therapist / Life Coach or explaining how you used them to change your life, then you are playing the victim card. 

When you start a new romantic relationship, do you tell war stories about your former lovers?  If so, you’re trying to elicit sympathy; thus you are being a victim.

When someone asks how you are doing, do you start listing your body afflictions such as a headache, back pain, or other aches and pains?  This is total victim-hood.

Do you believe that your financial results (i.e. the house you live in, you annual income, the balance in your bank account, etc.) are due to state of the economy, government programs, bad partners, your job, or any other outside factors?  If so, you are seeking to be victimized because you are giving your power to external forces.

Do you still talk about money you lost in a business deal or investments in the past?  What about how the value your house has declined over the few past years?  Of course the only reason you are doing this is because you feel victimized.

All of these are examples of victim stories, and they can keep you trap in a lifestyle where you are just surviving instead of being prosperous and thriving.   

If you don’t use any of the victim stories I discussed, and you are still not having all the prosperity and success you desire, take a moment and allow yourself to review all your reasons why you don’t have it.  If you do this objectively, you’ll be amazed at how many stories you have once you begin paying attention.

Don’t criticize yourself or beat yourself up for having a story about it because we all have victim stories no matter how well we are doing in life.  What’s important here, is that you finally come to see that your “poor me” story is nothing more than an incredible illusion maintained by your ego that keeps your trapped in your box you created for your life (your reality that limits what you experience in life).  But please understand this, your ego is a survival mechanism, and it tries its best to keep you from changing.  However, you have the power to take back control and live the life you truly desire.

The choice is yours to make.

As a co-creator of your reality, you have the power to make a new choice that would create a brand new reality in which your problem of lack no longer existed. The Law of Attraction is working 24/7 and is ready, willing and waiting to bring into your life everything belonging in the reality of your new choice.

So, what’s stopping you from committing to a new reality where lack does not exist and you embrace abundance and prosperity?  I think you already know the answer; you are too attached to your victim’s role, and letting go of it can be difficult for most people.

Why are you attached?

You are attached because that victim is who you are for now.  It is your identity and your role.  In order to choose out of your victim’s role and into a powerful new YOU, your ego would have to relinquish control of your life.  However, your ego will resist losing control because it thinks it is protecting you from danger.   

But you are not your ego!

However, there is a solution to escaping this trap of your victim’s role, and it begins with the realization that you are not your ego.  You are an individualization of God.  Can you allow yourself to accept this principle?  Once you’ve allowed yourself to be objective about the problem, you can begin the journey to take back control of from your ego and put your True Self back in charge of your life.

When your True Self is in charge of your life, prosperity and success will surely follow.

Namaste, 

RC

written by Reginald Cuffee

 

Today is the first day of July, and it would be the perfect day to reflect about the first half of 2009.  Specially, look back on your dreams and goals for this year, and the action you are taking to manifest them.  

What have you accomplished so far, and where in your life, have you been more conscious and present?  What wonderful miracles have happened so far this year?  As you are reflecting, do not focus what went wrong.  Forget about where you may have fallen off course. Only focus on what went right and the things that make you feel good.
 
To really discover how great the past six months have been, ask yourself the following questions:

• Who or what experience has made you feel generous, expansive, and prosperous so far this year?
• Did you experience any “ah-ha” moments, insights, or breakthroughs in the last 6 months?
• Where have you found the joy in your life so far in the last 6 months?
• What happened in your life that gave you a sense of inner peace?
• Who helped you with your dreams and goals, and have you said thank you?
• What or who caused you to feel a sense of accomplishment?
• Did you take even one step forward towards manifesting your dreams and goals?  If so, are you getting the results you were expecting?
• If you could re-live the past 6 months, what one thing would you do differently?  Do it NOW!
• Did you celebrate your successes along the way?  Remember it is not the size of the success that matters, but the fact that you acknowledged it.
• What was the most amazing moment of your life this year that made your heart sing, made you smile that secret smile, and made you really feel that life is truly wonderful?

 Now you are starting the third quarter of 2009, and you can take these productive and joyful experiences and use them to propel you toward achieving your dreams and goals.  This means you are already much further ahead towards your dreams and goals than you were at the beginning of the year.  You have established momentum, and what you desire for your life is coming to you whether it see it or not yet.  Just continue believe and continue to take massive inspired action.
 
May there be a miracle in your life today… May you have the eyes to see it…And May your heart be opened to receive it.
 
Namaste,

RC

written by Reginald Cuffee