Reginald Cuffee

Many people read self-growth books, listen to personal develop audio courses, and attend wealth training seminars hoping to find the magic formula that will allow them to transform their lives to have wealth and happiness.  They believe that if they do what the books, audio courses, or seminars suggest, they will have what they want and that having it automatically makes them into that successful person they always wanted to be.

Unfortunately, most people won’t do what they learned in the self-growth books, the audio courses, and the wealth seminars because it isn’t a natural thing for them to do. The doing of it, just doesn’t fit with the image of who they are.

For example, I had a client who attended a $9,000 real estate seminar.  The seminar  taught creative and proven marketing and prospecting strategies that would skyrocket her income; however, months later she was not achieving the level of success she desired.  In fact, her sales were decreasing. 

While working with her, I discovered that she had a fear of rejection, and this is fear was impacting what she was willing to do to be a successful real estate agent. 

Even though the real estate seminar told her exactly what to do and how to do it, the new procedures were out of character for her because it wasn’t something she felt comfortable doing.   Soon after the seminar ended, she was highly motivated to use some of them to improve her real estate sales, but the new procedures soon fell by the wayside for lack of follow through.   And this occurred because of who she was being - a person who feared rejection.

In my assessment, the seminar instructors failed miserably in their job, because they never told her she would have transform who she was being if she was going to be successful using their strategies.

Although she wanted to Be a successful real estate agent, she was following the wrong manifestation process of DO/ HAVE/ BE.  This is the same manifestation process that most people have been taught, but it is the wrong order to manifest what you desire.  Not only is in the wrong order, but the Universe does not honor it because DO is not the first step in the manifesting process.

By telling us what to do, self-growth books, personal development audio courses, and wealth training seminars suggest that the manifesting order for any change in circumstances is DO / HAVE / BE.  However, it just doesn’t work that way because they have the order backward.  If you are not already Being that person, you will never be able to do what the authors/ instructors  suggest until you change yourself into the person who will do those things as a result of who you are-not in spite of.

The Game of Life is set up so that we must grow in consciousness before you can have that better life you want.  Having more requires a transformation, which is the first, not the last step, in the order of manifesting.

We must BE before we can DO, and DO before we can HAVE.  The correct order of manifesting for us is BE / DO / HAVE.  The real question in life is whether you will choose to Be or not to Be the one who has what you want from life.

Namaste,

RC

written by Reginald Cuffee