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I believe people who have multiple short-lived relationships have never been taught how to have a successful romantic relationship; however, anyone can learn practical relationship advice that can improve this area of his or her life. If you desire to improve your relationship with your primary partner and grow in intimacy and closeness, here is my best relationship advice (tips) that can lead to a more blissful relationship.
Tip 1 - Acknowledge Your Primary Partner
Most people enjoyed being acknowledged for what they do, their feelings and aspirations. Therefore, be grateful for your primary partner and show your appreciation. You can do this by making a list of what you admire about your primary partner and sharing that list with him or her. Furthermore, you can do special things just for him or her such as giving a card, flowers, a foot rub, or going out dinner out?
Tip 2 - Love Means Having to Say You Are Sorry
If you make a mistake by doing or saying something that is hurtful or damaging to your primary partner, apologize by saying that you are sorry. Many people, especially men, struggle with these words, even when they know that what they did was hurtful. It actually takes a strong person to apologize. Do not procrastinate until you think you have the courage or the “right’ words to say; say it immediately and with sincerity. Too often when couples argue, there is a long period of silence, which actually intensifies the anger and tension. I believe that this a form of emotional abuse, and in the long run it will injury the relationship. So, let your primary partner know immediately that you made a mistake, and ask for forgiveness.
Tip 3 - Forgive for the Small and Big Things
If your primary partner has done something that requires you to forgive him or her, you have to forgive if he or she is sincerely asking for forgiveness. I know this can be a big issue for infidelity, but if your intent is to save the relationship, do the work that is require to resolve the situation. Then forgive your primary partner; REALLY forgive. Once you have worked through the situation either together or with relationship counseling, and you tell your primary partner that you forgive him or her, honor your words. This means you can never hold the situation over them again because you forgave and put the past behind you. You new intention for your relationship is now focused on building a new, strong, and healthy relationship. It will not be easy, but you can do it with the right help, attitude, and commitment.
Tip 4- Have a Date Night
One thing that can keeps the spark in your relationship is to have a regular “Date Night”. Many couples, especially for married couples and even for some “dating” couples, stop dating. Often people become very comfortable in their relationship and sitting around on the weekends or watching movies is about as exciting as it gets. Instead plan to go out on dates just like you did when you first meet. Each week, bi-weekly, or much as you and primary agree, plan to go out and have fun. Another thing you can do is be spontaneous and call and ask your primary partner and ask him or her out for a date. For example, actually call him or her and ask, “If you do not have any plans for Saturday night, would you like to go to a show with me?” It is crucial to relationships that you keep the passion alive by enjoying the act of dating.
As part of your “Date Night”, you may want to include intimate time together to at the end of your date. Intimacy and passion in your relationship is not only important, but it is healthy. Couples need to enjoy being together in an intimate way. So, make your intimate time together special. Surprise your partner with a warm bubble bath, lighted candles, soft music, and a bottle of wine, or reserve a nice romantic evening at a local hotel to include a wonderful candlelit dinner, fine wine, and a beautiful room.
Tip 5- Reminiscence About the Good Times
Create a memory scrap book to keep anything that the two of you did together such as old movie tickets, concert ticket stubs, brochures from cities visited, amusement park passes, cards attached to flowers received, old love notes or letters, birthday cards or anniversary cards from your primary partner. Every once in awhile, take out the scrap book and look at the items with your primary partner. Reminisce about each memento, and recall all the special times you spent together. As you look at your mementos, you will have feelings of happiness, and you will rekindle the connection between you and your partner.
Tip 6 - Say It With Words
Surprise your primary partner with little notes found in unexpected places. If your partner take a brief case for work, place a loving note somewhere inside the brief case. Perhaps your partner reads regularly. If so, put a post-it note saying, “I love you,” on a page where he or she will find it. Another recommendation is sticking a note on the steering wheel in the car so this will be the first thing seen when he or she get in the car in the morning. If you have a cell phone that is capable of sending text messages, occasionally send one saying “I love you.” Be creative with this relationship advice tip and have some fun with it.
Tip 7 - Increase Your Physical Contact
When couples first start dating, touching, cuddling, and kissing is usually a part of their everyday existence. However, as the relationship progresses into years of marriage, many couples stop most physical contact. So let met ask you, when was the last time you walked up to your primary partner for no reason and without saying a word, affectionately placed a kiss on his or her neck? This is not in a sexual way, but an affectionate way. There is a difference. If you haven’t done it lately, now is the time. Furthermore, the next time the two of you are sitting in the car or standing in line at the theater, play with your primary partner’s hair, rub his or her hand, or give a gentle back rub. When you are home, and you partner is sitting on the couch watching a movie, or laying in bed reading, get close and tell him or her that you just want to cuddle. This makes both people feel secure and loved.
Well, these seven tips are some of the best relationship advice that can improve and strengthen your relationship. If you put them into practice, you and your primary partner will experience the benefits. See how many of these you can practice in one week with that special person in your life and watch the intimacy in your relationships blossom.
If you want to maximize this relationship advice, you can use the practice of visualization to increase the result. Each day, visualize and feel the feelings you will have when you and your primary partner are having a blissful, and loving relationship.
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
Today is Independence Day here in the USA, and for many people, it is a day of celebration of our country’s freedom from England. On this day in 1776, America declared its independence and began an incredible experiment in controlling its own destiny.
Although it’s a great day to spend time with your family, attend a picnic, watch a parade, go to the beach, or watch fireworks, today is the perfect day to declare your freedom.
But freedom from what exactly?
- Freedom from the Rat Race where you work in a job doing what you do not enjoy.
- Freedom from financial constraints where you never have to
worry about paying your bills ever again because you have the money to pay for the experiences you desire in life.
- Freedom from a life filled with drudgery of just making a living.
- Freedom to do what you want, when you want to do it because you are not controlled by the 9 to 5 schedule.
Whether you are an America or not, it’s time to celebrate your financial freedom, or if you haven’t achieved it yet, it is time to declare it and go for it at full speed!
Remember, America declared it’s independence on July 4th, 1776; however, the world didn’t recognize America as a free nation until 1783. So, declare it for yourself now.
Once, you make this declaration, take action to BE that person. Release any negative beliefs that repels money from flowing to you, adopt a prosperous mindset, and take inspired action as ideas for flowing money comes to you. If you follow these steps of Be-Do-Have, before long, you will be well on your way to having financial freedom.
Have an exciting and inspiring day.
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
I believe it fair to say that most people desire to have prosperity and success. If this is true, why do so few people achieve it and continue to live well below their true potential? It occurs because they refuse to do what is required to change the results they are manifesting in their lives.
If you want to go from living a mediocre existence to living a thriving and prosperous life, there are many things you have to do. Big things like releasing the limiting beliefs and negative programming in your subconscious mind. Little things like making a decision to change, setting side time for self-development, doing affirmations, visualizing, and following through with inspired action.
However, let me tell you what I believe is the single most important thing you must do to change -
Release your attachment to your victim story!
If you are not currently living a prosperous life, you probably have a victim (”poor me“) story that keeps you trapped in your reality. A victim story is any excuse you might use to explain why you don’t already have everything you desire from life whether it is to be financial free, enjoying good health, experiencing a blissful relationship with your primary partner, experiencing joy and peace in your life, or a strong connection with the Source (God).
Our victim stories usually are based on circumstances and events we experience in the past, and we continue to use them to limit what we experience in our life now. For example:
Do you ever reminisce about any painful childhood experiences that you endured such as love or affection being withheld from you, being called negative names, being physically abused, or being abandoned, etc. If you are talking about these experiences with anyone other than a professional therapist / Life Coach or explaining how you used them to change your life, then you are playing the victim card.
When you start a new romantic relationship, do you tell war stories about your former lovers? If so, you’re trying to elicit sympathy; thus you are being a victim.
When someone asks how you are doing, do you start listing your body afflictions such as a headache, back pain, or other aches and pains? This is total victim-hood.
Do you believe that your financial results (i.e. the house you live in, you annual income, the balance in your bank account, etc.) are due to state of the economy, government programs, bad partners, your job, or any other outside factors? If so, you are seeking to be victimized because you are giving your power to external forces.
Do you still talk about money you lost in a business deal or investments in the past? What about how the value your house has declined over the few past years? Of course the only reason you are doing this is because you feel victimized.
All of these are examples of victim stories, and they can keep you trap in a lifestyle where you are just surviving instead of being prosperous and thriving.
If you don’t use any of the victim stories I discussed, and you are still not having all the prosperity and success you desire, take a moment and allow yourself to review all your reasons why you don’t have it. If you do this objectively, you’ll be amazed at how many stories you have once you begin paying attention.
Don’t criticize yourself or beat yourself up for having a story about it because we all have victim stories no matter how well we are doing in life. What’s important here, is that you finally come to see that your “poor me” story is nothing more than an incredible illusion maintained by your ego that keeps your trapped in your box you created for your life (your reality that limits what you experience in life). But please understand this, your ego is a survival mechanism, and it tries its best to keep you from changing. However, you have the power to take back control and live the life you truly desire.
The choice is yours to make.
As a co-creator of your reality, you have the power to make a new choice that would create a brand new reality in which your problem of lack no longer existed. The Law of Attraction is working 24/7 and is ready, willing and waiting to bring into your life everything belonging in the reality of your new choice.
So, what’s stopping you from committing to a new reality where lack does not exist and you embrace abundance and prosperity? I think you already know the answer; you are too attached to your victim’s role, and letting go of it can be difficult for most people.
Why are you attached?
You are attached because that victim is who you are for now. It is your identity and your role. In order to choose out of your victim’s role and into a powerful new YOU, your ego would have to relinquish control of your life. However, your ego will resist losing control because it thinks it is protecting you from danger.
But you are not your ego!
However, there is a solution to escaping this trap of your victim’s role, and it begins with the realization that you are not your ego. You are an individualization of God. Can you allow yourself to accept this principle? Once you’ve allowed yourself to be objective about the problem, you can begin the journey to take back control of from your ego and put your True Self back in charge of your life.
When your True Self is in charge of your life, prosperity and success will surely follow.
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
Today is the first day of July, and it would be the perfect day to reflect about the first half of 2009. Specially, look back on your dreams and goals for this year, and the action you are taking to manifest them.
What have you accomplished so far, and where in your life, have you been more conscious and present? What wonderful miracles have happened so far this year? As you are reflecting, do not focus what went wrong. Forget about where you may have fallen off course. Only focus on what went right and the things that make you feel good.
To really discover how great the past six months have been, ask yourself the following questions:
- Who or what experience has made you feel generous, expansive, and prosperous so far this year?
- Did you experience any “ah-ha” moments, insights, or breakthroughs in the last 6 months?
- Where have you found the joy in your life so far in the last 6 months?
- What happened in your life that gave you a sense of inner peace?
- Who helped you with your dreams and goals, and have you said thank you?
- What or who caused you to feel a sense of accomplishment?
- Did you take even one step forward towards manifesting your dreams and goals? If so, are you getting the results you were expecting?
- If you could re-live the past 6 months, what one thing would you do differently? Do it NOW!
- Did you celebrate your successes along the way? Remember it is not the size of the success that matters, but the fact that you acknowledged it.
- What was the most amazing moment of your life this year that made your heart sing, made you smile that secret smile, and made you really feel that life is truly wonderful?
Now you are starting the third quarter of 2009, and you can take these productive and joyful experiences and use them to propel you toward achieving your dreams and goals. This means you are already much further ahead towards your dreams and goals than you were at the beginning of the year. You have established momentum, and what you desire for your life is coming to you whether it see it or not yet. Just continue believe and continue to take massive inspired action.
May there be a miracle in your life today… May you have the eyes to see it…And May your heart be opened to receive it.
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
When I heard that Michael Jackson had passed away, I begin reflecting on my own life.
What came to my mind was the subject of happiness. Specifically, I was thinking about how many people are waiting for some external circumstance to change so they can be happy.
The say statements such as ” when I get the right job, when I get enough money, when I get the right man or woman, when my children become successful….. then I will be happy”
Guess what? Michael Jackson had tons of money, remarkable talent, fame, and millions of adoring fans around the world.
But, was he happy?
Although I did not know him personally, I think that most of us would agree that he didn’t act happy. In fact, a common phrase used to describe him was a “tortured soul.” Many people used this phrase to describe him because he appeared to be fighting inner demons.
If external circumstances such as money and success cause happiness, Michael Jackson should have been very happy. But it didn’t seem he was.
Now let’s not make a critical mistake and say that money and success cause unhappiness because they don’t. As Abraham Lincoln said, “Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.”
If you can’t be happy before you have prosperous, chances are you won’t be happy no matter how much abundance flows into in your life.
The best way I know to be happy is to practice gratitude. Yes, gratitude! When you focus on what is good in your life, rather than what is “bad” , happiness follows. And we all have plenty to be grateful for in our lives.
Many things in life that you experience are result of the choices you make! Love is a choice, not a feeling. Happiness is a choice.
How happy are you willing to make up your mind to be? Take a chance and choose to be really happy!
In this moment, focus on the blessings you have, and from that place of happiness, create the life you want. Let the lesson from Michael Jackson inspire you choose happiness first.
You can’t flow more abundance in your life if you’re feeling ungrateful, but you sure can if you’re feeling grateful, and happy.
So, go ahead. It won’t hurt. It’ll probably feel really good.
Say it–I choose happiness!
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
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