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Aug 08
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One of the things that affects your level of prosperity you experience in your life is your relationship with your primary partner (spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, or significant other). When most people begin a romantic relationship everything is wonderful and exciting, but for some couples these experiences are short-lived. For other couples, they can have a successful and loving relationship for many decades. So why do some couples seem to have blissful and long-lasting relationships while other simply can’t stay together?
I believe people who have multiple short-lived relationships have never been taught how to have a successful romantic relationship; however, anyone can learn practical relationship advice that can improve this area of his or her life. If you desire to improve your relationship with your primary partner and grow in intimacy and closeness, here is my best relationship advice (tips) that can lead to a more blissful relationship.
Tip 1 - Acknowledge Your Primary Partner
Most people enjoyed being acknowledged for what they do, their feelings and aspirations. Therefore, be grateful for your primary partner and show your appreciation. You can do this by making a list of what you admire about your primary partner and sharing that list with him or her. Furthermore, you can do special things just for him or her such as giving a card, flowers, a foot rub, or going out dinner out?
Tip 2 - Love Means Having to Say You Are Sorry
If you make a mistake by doing or saying something that is hurtful or damaging to your primary partner, apologize by saying that you are sorry. Many people, especially men, struggle with these words, even when they know that what they did was hurtful. It actually takes a strong person to apologize. Do not procrastinate until you think you have the courage or the “right’ words to say; say it immediately and with sincerity. Too often when couples argue, there is a long period of silence, which actually intensifies the anger and tension. I believe that this a form of emotional abuse, and in the long run it will injury the relationship. So, let your primary partner know immediately that you made a mistake, and ask for forgiveness.
Tip 3 - Forgive for the Small and Big Things
If your primary partner has done something that requires you to forgive him or her, you have to forgive if he or she is sincerely asking for forgiveness. I know this can be a big issue for infidelity, but if your intent is to save the relationship, do the work that is require to resolve the situation. Then forgive your primary partner; REALLY forgive. Once you have worked through the situation either together or with relationship counseling, and you tell your primary partner that you forgive him or her, honor your words. This means you can never hold the situation over them again because you forgave and put the past behind you. You new intention for your relationship is now focused on building a new, strong, and healthy relationship. It will not be easy, but you can do it with the right help, attitude, and commitment.
Tip 4- Have a Date Night
One thing that can keeps the spark in your relationship is to have a regular “Date Night”. Many couples, especially for married couples and even for some “dating” couples, stop dating. Often people become very comfortable in their relationship and sitting around on the weekends or watching movies is about as exciting as it gets. Instead plan to go out on dates just like you did when you first meet. Each week, bi-weekly, or much as you and primary agree, plan to go out and have fun. Another thing you can do is be spontaneous and call and ask your primary partner and ask him or her out for a date. For example, actually call him or her and ask, “If you do not have any plans for Saturday night, would you like to go to a show with me?” It is crucial to relationships that you keep the passion alive by enjoying the act of dating.
As part of your “Date Night”, you may want to include intimate time together to at the end of your date. Intimacy and passion in your relationship is not only important, but it is healthy. Couples need to enjoy being together in an intimate way. So, make your intimate time together special. Surprise your partner with a warm bubble bath, lighted candles, soft music, and a bottle of wine, or reserve a nice romantic evening at a local hotel to include a wonderful candlelit dinner, fine wine, and a beautiful room.
Tip 5- Reminiscence About the Good Times
Create a memory scrap book to keep anything that the two of you did together such as old movie tickets, concert ticket stubs, brochures from cities visited, amusement park passes, cards attached to flowers received, old love notes or letters, birthday cards or anniversary cards from your primary partner. Every once in awhile, take out the scrap book and look at the items with your primary partner. Reminisce about each memento, and recall all the special times you spent together. As you look at your mementos, you will have feelings of happiness, and you will rekindle the connection between you and your partner.
Tip 6 - Say It With Words
Surprise your primary partner with little notes found in unexpected places. If your partner take a brief case for work, place a loving note somewhere inside the brief case. Perhaps your partner reads regularly. If so, put a post-it note saying, “I love you,” on a page where he or she will find it. Another recommendation is sticking a note on the steering wheel in the car so this will be the first thing seen when he or she get in the car in the morning. If you have a cell phone that is capable of sending text messages, occasionally send one saying “I love you.” Be creative with this relationship advice tip and have some fun with it.
Tip 7 - Increase Your Physical Contact
When couples first start dating, touching, cuddling, and kissing is usually a part of their everyday existence. However, as the relationship progresses into years of marriage, many couples stop most physical contact. So let met ask you, when was the last time you walked up to your primary partner for no reason and without saying a word, affectionately placed a kiss on his or her neck? This is not in a sexual way, but an affectionate way. There is a difference. If you haven’t done it lately, now is the time. Furthermore, the next time the two of you are sitting in the car or standing in line at the theater, play with your primary partner’s hair, rub his or her hand, or give a gentle back rub. When you are home, and you partner is sitting on the couch watching a movie, or laying in bed reading, get close and tell him or her that you just want to cuddle. This makes both people feel secure and loved.
Well, these seven tips are some of the best relationship advice that can improve and strengthen your relationship. If you put them into practice, you and your primary partner will experience the benefits. See how many of these you can practice in one week with that special person in your life and watch the intimacy in your relationships blossom.
If you want to maximize this relationship advice, you can use the practice of visualization to increase the result. Each day, visualize and feel the feelings you will have when you and your primary partner are having a blissful, and loving relationship.
Namaste,
RC
