In the pass three years or so, there has been a lot of discussion about the Law of Attraction. This discussion all began with the movie, “The Secret” which introduced to the mass consciousness the concept that our thoughts create our lives. The Law of Attraction (LOA) states that you attract to yourself what you think about and focus on whether you want it or not. In the end, many people began to believe if they changed their thoughts to what they want, it will suddenly appear.
Well, many people are discovering that the LOA doesn’t really work that easily. Although many people have put a lot of effort into changing their thoughts to what they want, many people say they are unable to manifest the results they want. Well, if you are experiencing problems with the LOA, let me just say this law is working because it works all the time. Just as you can not turn off the Law of Gravity, you can turn off the Law of Attraction. I know many people who are very skeptical and do not accept the validity of the LOA, but it not my intent to convince anyone about it. However, if you have been deliberately using the LOA, and you have been unable to manifest what you want, then this information may be very applicable for you.
I having been using the LOA to deliberately manifest what I want for over eight years, and I teach this law and other universal laws to anyone who is opened-minded and seeking the path to prosperous living. Over the years, I have noticed that many people are making the same common mistakes using the Law of Attraction to manifest what they want, and I will discuss some of them in this article.
~ Not Clear About Why You Want It
When I asked most people what they wanted, they usually say things such as “I want more money.” “I want to be physically fit.” “I want to be happy. “ Or “I want to be sexy.” Yet most people who say these things are out of shape, broke, or unhappy. Why is this occurring? Because they haven’t discovered the true reason why they want what they say they want. As a result, they continually attract more of what they don’t want. Most people who are using the LOA intentionally are trying to prove, show or demonstrate something, or they are trying not to be something. However, you can only attract who you are being.
If you want fame, success, or financial abundance so you can prove to the world that you are good enough, then your subconscious mind is clear that you aren’t good enough. Otherwise you won’t have to prove it. If you want success and happiness so you can prove to the world, to your family, or to yourself that you are smart, then your subconscious mind is clear that you aren’t smart. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have to prove it. If you are clear that you aren’t good enough, you aren’t smart, or whatever, then you will attract circumstances and situations that will make it obvious that you are being that.
I know this may be different that what you read or heard about the LOA, but this the brutal truth.
Therefore, you must get crystal clear on what you want and clear on why you want it. Do you want to be financially free? What about having a loving relationship with your primary partner who really loves and supports you? What about doing work that you instead of doing work just to pay the bills? All of these things and more are possible, but you need to know why you truly want it and get yourself aligned with what you want. You can have these things and experiences because manifesting is our innate ability, but many people are getting what they don’t want instead of what they do want.
For whatever you want, just ask the question, “What will that mean when I get it?” Keep asking this question over and over again until you uncover the real reason why you want it.
When you discover the real reason, you can change it if it is in conflict with what you want.
~ Your Beliefs Conflict with What You Want
If your beliefs are in conflict with what you want, this is a killer of your manifestations. Although you consciously want something, it is not in alignment with it with what you believe subconsciously. In fact, if your belief is in conflict with what you want, you have what I call a limiting belief. A limiting belief is a mental block or resistance stored in your subconscious mind, which limits or blocks your ability to manifest what you want. For example, if you say
I want to be a super model, but I believe that I not good enough,
or
I want the love of my life, but I believe I am are ugly,
or
I want respect from my employer, but I believe I am stupid and worthless.
or
I want to be physically fit, but I hate myself, then you will manifest more of what you don’t want. In this case, just the opposite of what you say you want.
And no matter how much you visualize or repeat affirmations, you will not manifest what you want because you still have this underlying limiting belief in your subconscious mind that is attracting exactly what you don’t want. Therefore, you are always getting exactly what you subconsciously believe. Have you notice you keep asking for this or that, but you are getting the opposite of what you want? Well, your wanting and your belief are conflicting.
The universe functions as a GIANT MIRROR reflecting to you an exact MATCH to your deeply held beliefs.
So many times I have seen this happen to people. Recently, I was speaking with a friend who was employed as a senior manager in her company. She said she wanted to be promoted to general manager in her company for the past two years, but the promotion was not coming. After speaking with her, I discovered that she is a very good employee, and her management thinks very highly of her ability and her work ethics. Then I asked her why she believed she wasn’t being promoted to a vice president. She said, she believes it was because she was a minority. Do you she the conflict with what she wants and what she believes? She wants to be general manger, but she believes she will not be promoted because she is a minority. This is a limiting belief, and it is repelling the promotion she wants. I went a step further and discovered why she wanted to be a general manger which was to prove she was as good as the “white people” in her company. Her conscious desire to be general manager was in conflict with her belief that she was not as good as the “white people” in her company
Please understand this, when your wanting and believing in conflict, I can guarantee you that the LOA will not work for the wanting. Instead it will attract what you believe. In my friend’s case, she was not being promoted even though she worked hard, volunteered for extra projects, came in first and left last. None of that matter because her wanting and believing were conflicting. Once she changed this limiting belief and gave up her wanting to prove she was as good, she manifested her promotion to general manger in less than a year. So, examine your beliefs, and give them up if they are limiting your ability to manifest the results you want.
~ You Are Playing the Victim Game
Another critical mistake people make when using the Law of Attraction is to play the victim game. What is the victim game you ask? It goes like this, someday when I, then I will… For example, someday when I have the money, then I going to be happy, or someday when I get everything together, then I going to have the time to spend with my kids.
Playing the victim game makes you a victim, and it is the wrong approach for manifesting what you want because you are making a bold statement to the universe that NOW is not enough, and it is not PERFECT. Therefore, I am not grateful for what I have in my life. When you feel and act in this matter, you will attract more circumstances and situations to cause you to get the results you don’t want.
You must recognize that where you are is the perfect place, but most people decide on what they want and then they instantly make where they are wrong. Many people are ungrateful for what they have now, but they believe they will be grateful when they get what they want. Some victims even complain about what they have now. But did you know that complaining about what you don’t want is asking for what you do want.
Complaining is asking!
Bitching is asking!
Worrying about what you don’t want is asking!
Why, because the universe is always a yes. So, when you say, I don’t want it, the universe says, give it to him or her. And the more you complain or worry about what you have or what don’t want, the more you will get it. If you are playing the victim game, it is crucial that you give it up and be grateful for where you are and what you have NOW.
~ People Change Their Routine Prematurely
When some people make an intention to manifest something deliberately by using the LOA, they immediate make a drastic change in their lives. For example, if you wanted a new car, you would go into debt to purchase the car, or if you wanted start a new business, you would quit your current job. This is a critical mistake many people make. Unless you have the income to make the car payments or the money to provide for your needs while you are starting your new business, continue what you are doing.
If you abruptly change your life, your Ego mind will go into survival mode which will cause you to worry about money. You will begin to have doubt about your ability with the LOA, and you will begin to focus on a lack of money. Remember, what you focus on will expand, so keep doing what you are already doing. As you do, you will begin to notice the right people, circumstances, and situations showing up to assist with manifesting what you want. When they do, take action.
~ You Try To Figure Out The How
How? How? How? The moment you declare your intention that you want to be in a loving relationship, purchase a new house, or whatever you want, your analytical mind starts going crazy trying to figure it out to accomplish it. Stop!
You must learn how to relax and listen to the “small voice within” and let the right information come to you. You must know and trust that what you want is coming. Detach from the HOW. There is a Vietnamese proverb that I learned from one of my mentors — “PHUCKHOW”. Say it slowly, and you will get the meaning.
Trying to figure out how it’s all going to happen, repels what you want because you are forcing the manifestation process. The how of your new result will come to you when you are relaxed or as a moment of intuitive guidance when your mind has slowed down such as while you are sleeping or meditating.
~ You Keep Your Intention A Secret
Many people make the mistake of declaring an intention to manifest something and then they keep it to themselves. This usually occurs because you are embarrassed, or you believe the people you tell may ridicule you or think you are a dreamer. Or it may stem from comments you heard from your parents during your childhood such as you were told not to brag or boast about what you are doing.
If you want to speed up your manifestation, you have to get over that survival mechanism because all manifestations include other people. Therefore, you have to learn to get beyond your fears and share what you want.
I know many people who teach the Law of Attraction believe that you should not tell everyone about your intention. I differ with this belief because every person you meet is apart of the universe. When you tell them, it’s like you are strengthening your intention because you are telling the universe what it is that you want.
So, do not discount the importance of the people you meet day to day. Many times you run across people, and you immediately judge them as to how they would fit into your world. Everyone you meet is there on purpose. Anyone you make eye contact with in the store, at the mall, at a restaurant, or wherever, I promise you if you would follow that lead and connect to that person, magic will began to happen in ways you can never expect. I truly believe that Source (God) keeps sending you the right people at the right time over and over again to help you manifest what you want.
Have you ever heard that there six-degrees of separation from any person on the planet. Actually, I believe it is 2 or 3 degrees of separation to most people on the planet. Remember, you do not know if a person you meet knows the right person that can help manifest what you want, so tell everyone, but do it in a way that is coming from contribution.
For example, if you are a real estate agent, and you intend to sell 3 houses to make $20,000 this month, don’t say that. Instead say something like, I am a real estate agent, and I am committed to helping 3 families sell their homes, so they can avoid foreclosure.
~ You Look For Evidence
When many people declare an intention, they make the mistake of wanting it to happen on their timetable. This is another big killer for deliberately manifesting for many people because they begin to look for evidence that what they want is coming. As the date they set approaches, they begin to have doubt if it will work, and they begin focusing on what might be wrong.
Remember, there is a season to sow and a season to reap and they both don’t occur at the same time. The universe knows what is required to manifest what you want, and must align the events, circumstances, and people to make it occur. Therefore, when you set your intention, you must let Go, and Let Source (God). If you are not making any other mistakes I mentioned in this article, just relax and enjoy the situation even when it is not what you think it should be, or you don’t see any evidence of it manifesting. Practice gratitude, appreciation, and acknowledgement and trust that what you want is coming to you. Once you give up your resistance, the things you want will manifest. It is your stress, fear, doubt, anxiety, anger, resent, guilt, frustration, and overwhelm that is stopping you from manifesting what you want. These are the weapons your Ego mind uses to guide you away getting what you want.
This reminds me of one of my mentors, James Ray, who set an intention to appear on the Oprah show in the early 1990’s to discuss the concept of the Law of Attraction. It took nearly fifteen years before that intention manifested. He realized that it took that long because he was not ready for prime time television and the mass consciousness of the people was not ready for this type of information. However, he did not give up on his intention. Instead he continued to study and improve his public speaking abilities; even though, he did not see evidence of it happening.
But what most people do when they don’t see evidence of their intentions manifesting-they panic. When you panic, you bring into your life what you are panicking about. You are broadcasting a message to the universe, “I don’t’ want that”. And guess what? You delay or cancel your intention, and you don’t get what you want.
You have to learn to get in a place where you trust that all is well. If a situation appears to be disastrous, you must know that something good is going to come from this situation. For example, if you intending to manifest a better job and you get fired or laid-off from your current job, accept it. And know when one door closes, the universe opens a new one because disaster, chaos, and destruction is the beginning of creation.
You can’t manifest amazing things without being able to withstand some disaster, chaos, and destruction. They are critically connected which mean you got to be able to stay out of a panic state. If you don’t, the LOA is not going to bring you what you want. Instead, it will bring you more of what you don’t want.
~ You Are Not Opened to All Possibilities
Many people have a tendency to discount the results they manifest if it doesn’t look the way they thought it would occur. What you want will manifest if you do not make the mistakes mentioned in this article; however, it may not look the way you think it should, but it is always better. For example, I had an intention to receive $100,000 in my bank account within 60 days. Well, on day 65, I received a letter from my bank stating that I was pre-approved for a $100,000 unsecured loan. All I had to do was sign the loan papers, and the money would be deposited into my bank account within 72 hours.
Now many people would discount this as a manifestation because they did not want a loan. They wanted the cash free and clear. Well that would be a critical mistake because I did get the money, and I used it for an investment that earned over 40 percent within six months. Remember, your intention usually comes in a way that is better than you imagined, so be opened to all possibilities.
~ You Are Obsessed With What You Want
When you get obsessed with manifesting what you want, you are fixating on what you don’t have in your life. As you do this, you are shouting a message to the universe, “I don’t have what I want!” The main reason you are attached to the outcome of what you are intending to manifest is due to doubt and a lack of trust in your manifesting ability.
The thing to do is relax and be peaceful and know that what you want is coming to you now. You must recognize the ebb and flow of what you want to manifest. If you want to manifest more money, a new relationship, or anything else, don’t obsess about. Just remain grateful, and know that it is coming to you now. Otherwise, your attachment will surely repel it away.
~ You Are Not Taking Action
Another big killer of your manifestations is not taking action. Many people that when they deliberately use the Law of Attract, they believe that what they want will appear without any action. This is a fallacy. Action is required. Not ordinary action such as getting a second job or working longer hours to earn or money, but is about taking inspired actions.
After you declare an intention, you may receive intuitive message which is sent by Source to direct you to take action that will assist with your manifestation. These intuitive messages can come as psychic impressions, gut feelings, hunches, inspiration, revelations, premonitions, insight, inner voice, or vibes.
For example, you may have an intention to be a loving relationship with a person who loves and supports you and who you will marry. Perhaps while driving home from your job, you get a gut feeling to stop pass your local grocery market to purchase some avocados.
Take action and follow your gut feelings.
Why, because Source (God) may have orchestrated events so you will run into a friend from your old neighborhood who introduces you to the person who is to become your spouse. You discover the intuitive message was not about purchasing avocados after all; it was nudging you to take action and go to the market so you could meet the person you would ultimately marry.
This is not a fairy tale because that’s how one of my friends met his wife. If he wouldn’t have taken action to go to the market, he would have delayed or even canceled his manifestation.
Conclusion
Well, these are critical mistakes that many people make with the Law of Attraction. If you would like to manifest what you want, avoid these mistakes. If you do, what you want will manifest for you.
Namaste,
RC
written by Reginald Cuffee
