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What is it that you want in your life? Is it a loving relationship with your spouse, a family member or a friend? Is it a new career doing what you love, or is having the money to travel around the world? Is it improved health and having a sexy body? Take a few minutes and think about all the things you want in your life.
If you did simple task, do you notice a common theme in the things you want?
No matter what you want, there is a common theme is and that is you don’t have it.
Do you ever wonder why? It happens because wanting is the opposite of having. Can you stand up and sit down at the same time. No; it is impossible. You can do one or the other, but you can’t do both at the same time, and this same principle applies to wanting and having.
Now, I am not suggesting that you do let go of your wanting so you end up with nothing. Instead, I am merely pointing out that if you let go of wanting, then you would have it. I know this sounds like a real dilemma for the mind, but when you in a state of wanting, you mind tends to focus on what you don’t have. When this occurs, you get feelings of lack and unhappiness, and these feelings are broadcasted into the Universe. Thus you repel what you want, and you remain trapped in a state of wanting.
The old adage of “the rich get richer and the poor get poorer” can easily be explained with this principle. When a rich person hold in his mind the belief that “I have money”, this person is not focusing on wanting (or lacking) money, and this abundant energy is broadcasted to the Universe. Thus this person attracts more opportunities and circumstances to manifest more money. On the other hand, a poor person on is forever wanting it and broadcasting lack energy to the Universe. Thus this person attracts opportunities and circumstances to repel money.
If you are going to change from a state of wanting to a state of having, you need to re-program the mind to focus on what is good in life. It is normal for the mind to focus on the lack of it in your life, but many people never move beyond that point of creation.
To create a the shift in your mind from wanting to having, do the following.
For everything that you want to create in your life, find something similar that you can be grateful for in your life NOW. For example, if you want a more blissful relationship with your primary partner, find things about him/her that you are grateful for and focus on those things. Feel gratitude for the relationships you have that are working. It is the feeling of gratitude that draws what you want to you. It is not necessary to focus specifically on what it is that you want…mainly because when we do that it is so difficult to focus on the feelings of having what you want while living in the present experience of what you do not want. Instead shift your focus away from what isn’t working and focus on the things that are.
The more you vibrate the energy of gratitude out into the Universe, the more things you will begin to notice to be grateful for. When those things happen, allow yourself to just feel gratitude for them. Be aware that the mind is suspicious sometimes and wants to doubt what is happening, looks for strings, or is worried about when it will stop, so notice the mind when it does this and just release those toxic thoughts. Just relax and enjoy the moment. Feel gratitude for what IS happening and you will attract more of that.
Furthermore, start a gratitude journal today. At the end of every day before retiring to bed, write 5-10 things that you grateful for about your day. Allow yourself to really focus on them and FEEL the energy of gratitude in your body.
When you find yourself having a moment in the day when nothing is happening, allow yourself to take a deep breath and just appreciate the silence of the present moment.
Be grateful your health, home, your car, the things that are working in your life, the food in your refrigerator, the lessons you are experiencing that will cause you to grow, or anything that comes to mind.
Give thanks…feel it…and journal about what you experience.
Namaste,
RC
May 11th, 2009 at 6:27 pm
This is brilliant, Reg. I have never thought of it in this way before but you are absolutely right, wanting only makes you realise you have not got something. Time to change my thinking.
Enjoy the journey.
Mandy
May 11th, 2009 at 11:38 pm
Mandy,
This principle took a while for me to understand, but when I “got it”, it made a difference in my life. I just love those A-ha moments!
Namaste,
Reginald
May 12th, 2009 at 8:09 pm
Very interesting post Reginald.
It is the “law of attraction” meets reality. I think we often focus on what we don’t have because the social nature of human beings and this 24/7 perma-info overloaded world we live in makes us feel like we’re failures unless we have what “everyone” else has. But we don’t see that the grass is rarely greener on the other side. It’s easy to make your life look exciting if you’re condensing a whole year into a 20 min soundbite!
Life is about choices. It is fundamentally unfair. Relationships are hard work. Nothing worth having is ever easily come by. Accept these truths and you find it easier to feel blessed.
I have no doubt that my life would be easier, calmer and simpler without my husband and twin pre-schoolers and rescue dogs. But would I enjoy it? No. Would I be happier? No. With them in my life I reap untold rewards! I wouldn’t change anything for the world!
Thank you for reminding us to take time to appreciate what we have.
Susan
May 12th, 2009 at 11:14 pm
Hi Susan,
Thanks for visiting my blog. I agree that most people are conditioned to focus on what they don’t have in their lives. By doing this, they fail to appreciate what is in front of them; as a result, they never get what they truly want in life.
As for most of your other statements, I do not agree.
I do not mean to be critical, so please accept my comments with the intent to assist you. Many of the statements you wrote are based on limiting beliefs that cause you to struggle in life. For example, you wrote that life is fundamentally unfair. I would disagree with this statement because we all create our lives by our thoughts, beliefs and actions. If you really believe that life is unfair, you will broadcast this negative energy into the cosmos, and the Universe will provide you with ample evidence to support this belief. I choose to believe that life is easy and amazingly fun.
Yes, life is about choices, but most people have chosen to struggle in life instead of enjoying it. Instead of taking responsibility for their choices, they blame other people for their predicaments .
But the good news is, just as they choose to struggle, they can choose to be happy and live a prosperous life because the past the not equal the future.
Namaste,
RC
May 13th, 2009 at 9:10 pm
Again, another thought provoking post Reginald!
What I was trying to convey in my comment, and clearly did not, was that life experiences are not always in your control. A sudden redundancy or death of a loved one makes an individual life hard. Anyone suffering a miscarriage of a much wanted child will certainly not agree that life is easy and amazingly fun.
I agree that life should be easy and fun - when a person has achieved the ultimate enlightened mental state you allude to - but the path to changing the necessary mental perspective is hard. You highlighted this point brilliantly in the post you made on my blog.
Thank you.
Susan